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The characteristics survival dictate you develop to endure and triumph over diversity maybe the same characteristics you may be required to shed to grow, expand and accelerate the development of self.
There will come a time when your situation has changed where those qualities, habits, and responses as great as they are, must be put away as they are no longer serving you.
What once was an asset if you are not careful can become a liability.
You are not in survival mode; thus, those attributes are not required as they do not fit the circumstances. To cleave too tightly to that which does not apply is to create barriers that will undermine your authority and your progress.
It is not disloyalty to self; it is ensuring the adherence to the integrity of one’s true self by removing all hindrances that may stagnate and prevent one’s true manifestation of excellence.
We all know that sex sells and if you have ever watched television, read advertisement on posters, stores, magazines and listen to the radio you know exactly what I mean. Sex for profit has taken new heights. I am speaking with regard to alcohol, more specifically, wines. Since early 2000s there's been a growing trend associating sex with wine. The titaling usage of sex now in your face bold, crude and rude. It’s usage has become the “Norm”. We are now in an age of the unapologetically bold willfully erasing barriers and in some case blowing it to thy kingdom come. Modesty, discretion, a thing of the past. Now alcohol is "SEXY" literally and figuratively. Life is what you think.
Really?
It certainly brings to mind a myriad of mind boggling befuddling questions, implications and ramifications.
“The Happiness Hypothesis” by Johathan Haidt made me think, not only on the surface of things but beneath things, deep in the core of things.
Do we create our own experiences? Hmmmmm….
I have to give some more thought to this concept.
Stay with me while I pontificate (sound off)….
I certainly agree to a degree as I can see the merits of this hypothesis as an adult. However, I question its premise as it applies to (children) the child I was who experienced things way beyond my control or thought processes, before I was cognoscente and conscious of being.
I suppose therein lays my resistance as I don’t believe that children in their age of innocence are responsible for what is visited upon them by adults.
Though…. I do agree that….
“What we are today comes from our thoughts of yesterday, and our present thoughts build our life of tomorrow: our life is the creation of our mind.” --Johathan Haidt
Maybe therein is the answer….Our thoughts,
While we may not be responsible for some of what happens to us, how we think of those experiences as it pertains to how we see ourselves, how we feel about ourselves, how we think of ourselves and whether or not we allow those things/experiences to determine our self-worth, our value, to impact our self-esteem that affects the way we love, honor and accept ourselves is the key.
Hmmmmm….
How wonderfully liberating and simultaneously horrendously terrifying the reality of that concept is, how many of you out there believe that to be true?
Are we as a society, as individuals ready or willing to believe, acknowledge, consider or even give voice to the possibility that we are, each of us implicitly responsible for our lives and the challenges, trials & tribulations that inevitable shape it?
Are we willing to embrace that, and if so, then what?
Art: Journey to you by Salaam Mohammad
Trust is one of the values I think we all (regardless of creed, class, ethnicity, nationality, religion) universally agree is very important to the health, maintenance and longevity of any relationship. Trust is the corner stone.
Trust
Trust cannot be bought; it cannot be stolen however it can be broken and lost.
Arguable I have heard some people say that trust can indeed be bought and stolen. I beg to differ. If one does manages to buy another’s “trust” is it truly trust they are purchasing or the illusion of trust. It is a delusion built with express purpose of influencing and misguiding others. How can real trust exist when one wilfully resorts to treachery, trickery and manipulation of another in order to gain it? That is debauchery.
What do you think, can trust be bought and stolen, and if so is it real trust?
How much is your trust worth?
When is “Your Business” NOT "your business?"§ When you choose to argue uproariously in public infringing on other peoples right not to be privy to the things that is pissing you off
If you give up all of whom you are,
Over extend yourself at the expense of your self-esteem,
Compromise your integrity and dignity,
Sacrifice everything in exchange for external validation, love and acceptance.
You have dishonoured yourself
Your actions is a detriment to YOU, your spirit, your soul
This is the act of self-negation and in doing so
You have, established to those to whom you surrender,
That your core belief is…
You are not enough,
You are not unworthy
You are unwilling, unable to advocate for you on your own behalf
In this space you will remain…
Unaware, unconscious and unenlightened,
Wrapped in powerlessness and inadequacy
Not understanding that…
YOU, you teach others how to treat you,
YOU, teach others how to see you,
Which begs the question…
If you do not respect you, whom do you expect to?
If you do not validate you, whom do you, expect will?
If you do not love you, how will you recognize loving kindness?
How will you be able to distinguish the difference?
If you do not accept you as you are with all your perfect imperfections, poor judgements, ill manners, and multitude of mistakes, whom do you expect will want to if you, the proprietor of self, do not want you?
The thing is…
Everything you need and want lies within you!
You are fully equipped;
God did not make a mistake in your creation
The heavenly father does not make mistakes
It all starts with you and in you!
Validate, Love and accept yourself as you are
Understand
You are enough!
Know your worth
And…
Understand in all things, situations, and circumstances,
Your value and what you bring to the table of life.
Peace….
BE MINDFUL THAT...
One's constant denial, rejection, negation and abandonment of self in order to please everybody else does nothing to enlighten, nourish or replenish the soul only defeat, denounce and guarantee the decay of the spirit.
When you think you have seen it all. Life turns around and surprises you. This week I am perusing the flyers for sales on some key items and came across this add for car lashes and eyeliner. My reaction…wtf….oookkkkk? Whatever floats your boat i guess.
Actual advertisement:
I am curious to know, would you put these on your car?
"Too much of a good thing is good for nothing”
Sometimes
Choice
IS
The problem
Questions that boggles the mind:
The Dilemma:
Each choice brings with it a consequence one will be left to live with, experience as a result of choosing.
*Sigh* blessed as we are with the power of choice “sometimes, choice is the problem.”
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