1 I AM LOVE

I AM LOVE

I AM MADE FROM LOVE

I AM FASHIONED IN LOVE

I CAME FORTH IN LOVE

TO LOVE

TO BE LOVED

TO GIVE LOVE

TO RECIEVE LOVE

I 

AM 

LOVE

by D.S.B.S.Rhapsody Phoenix

16 LOVE-REAL OR COUNTERFEIT?

Some things never lose its relevance. Digging into the archive volt of posts past I retrieve and reassert this post written 2 years ago, very apropos for current headspace. Enjoy.

Love, can you recognize the real thing? If the love you claim leaves you isolated, alone, feeling lesser than, operating in lack, demoralized, more sad than happy, more miserable than joyful, you might want to question the integrity of that love.  counterfeit

Sometimes counterfeit “love” comes packaged like the real thing, like the knockoff Lui  Vuitton’s and Christian Dior’s products. It may look the same, give the illusion of being the same but the quality, durability and integrity of the product will reveal itself to be the poor imitation it is. Counterfeit love manifests itself in much the same way. It is a “love” boobie trap designed to extricate you from all that protects, nourishes and supports you at being your best authentic self. Its intent is to bleed you of your authenticity, of your glory, your faith, and your self-worth/esteem. Once you are caught up, isolated, severed from the enriching, soul satisfying true love that protects and embraces your authenticness flaws, warts and all; it will be a task (though not impossible) to get back to truth-the real you. Teach yourself to recognize false love coming in the guise as truth.  

People may try to convince, seduce, coerce and manipulate you into things and situations that is not the best for you however the final decision on whether or not to follow through, say yes or no is your sole responsibility.   

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27 ON ANGEL DUTY NOW

Oswald Gould, Navy Petty Officer 2nd Class on Angel Duty now.

We called him Ossie, my cousin. Today makes it one week since he has passed, gone on heaven ways leaving us to cope with his absence and find a way to move forward regardless. The world marches on without missing a beat, time not stopping just kept on ticking. Some days I go on without a hiccup. Some days I stop feeling like I have been slammed into a wall and I can’t breathe and I have to sit down.

Oh cous, you will be missed. You were well loved, though at times like all of us you probably didn't always feel it as much when the family dynamics came into play. That's life; we all have our story to tell on that score.

I was the baby in my branch of the family but among all 9 of us kids Ossie was the baby. He was very handsome. God sure did take his time moulding him from beginning to end. He got the lion's share of masculine beauty plus that of the guy behind him in line, the guy in the middle of the line and the guy at the end of the line. He was cute as all get out. A gift I think at the times he felt was more of a curse than a blessing because whenever we had events Ossie use to have to hide from girls because they literally plastered themselves on him (I kid you not) while others flock to him like bees to honey. It was hilarious to see the “help me” look skitter across his face as he anxiously span the crowd looking for Tantie Jacqueline (his mom). My dear sweet handsome cousin was terrified. We all laughed at his expense of course kids being kids but he was seriously scared. He would run behind Tantie Jacqueline to hide sometimes begging her to protect him and keep him safe. When I think of those days I smile as I am smiling now.

Fast forward eons later, he the grown man, me the grown woman, living worlds apart. We managed to keep a connection through long phone conversations and mini texts back and forth, it wasn’t ideal but, it’s what family does, make the effort to say connected.

If you are reading this cous, yeah am talking to you, (don’t be rolling your eyes at me) thought you were gonna get a break huh, right! You keep dreaming buddy, you are not off the hook mister sweet delight, you are on angel duty now so check in, stay connected and lemme know what’s ahead when I hit a blind spot.

Peace

Love you much,

Hitting it straight from the hips not letting it slip, yeah I know, corny as hell but you loved me that way, gotta keep it one hundred as per usual…..

YOUR STRENGTH & ENDURANCE WERE INCREDIBLE
I admired your courage through the battle of stage 4 Nasopharyngeal Cancer.  You fought valiantly and surpassed all the limitations and boundaries they gave you.

38 LOVE

It makes the world go round. It heals, it inspires, it rejuvenates, it motivates, it uplifts.

May love lift you up and carry you through.

Happy Valentines Day

16 God Is...

Some days all i can say is God is...
Merciful
Kind
Patient
Truth
Light
My comforter
My support
My refuge
My confidant
My home
My breath
My hope
My strength
My resilience
My determination
My perseverance
My deliverance
My peace
My solace
The glue that holds me together
when the world threatens to blow me apart.

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23 LOVE, Unconditioned

Unconditional love, we all want it, crave it, yearn for it. All that needing, yearning, wanting, begs the question:

• Do you know what it is to love unconditionally?
• Can you give  unconditional love?
• Would you recognize when its freely given?
• If you are blessed to receive unconditional love would you treasure it?
• Will you embrace it if it comes in a package other than your expectation

or

• Will you throw it away in hopes that it will shows up only as you desire it?

If you don’t know how to love unconditionally, are you willing to learn, are you open to asking, understanding, growing and doing the work to achieve love unconditioned.

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57 A Question on Love-Requested Post

Blessings – This post is dedicated to my friend Lady D who requests I post our email communication about her questions on LOVE. She will like to read your point of view on the subject.

I will post her questions to you in the end of our email conversation.

HER EMAIL

Dear Rhapsody…

I have a question for you and I will like to know your thoughts on it. It is a little bit difficult to understand however if you need me to clarify please ask me.

• Does love depend on feelings?
• If someone doesn’t feel those feelings they felt at the first time does it mean the love is gone after you promised to love that someone (what I felt at that time), but then one day you wake up and you do not have the same feelings, but the person is really a good person, does the relationship have to stop?
• What if the other person in the relationship still loves me a lot and I know he does because he proves it by his actions, should I wait and see what will happen? I need your opinion.

MY RESPONSE

Hmmmmmm…..Lady D

Love manifest in many ways and the expression varies based on how people interpret love, what they think it means and now they feel the expression of love should look, sound and feel. I guess if I were to compartmentalize it (put it into parts); I would use 2 categories FEELINGS & ACTIONS just to keep it simple.

• FEELINGS being the emotion i.e. the pleasure you feel, the connection, the contentment, the high as love is very potent
• ACTIONS being the compulsions, that the drive and motivates you into doing things to express that feeling of love, to show the one who has won your affection what they mean to you as love is inspiring and that inspiration incites you to do things for the one(s) you love

They both go hand in hand. I believe love is transitional hence it shifts and changes whether those changes are for the better or worse is dependent on the parties involved and how committed they are to making the relationship the best it can be. That means evolving together as a couple, making allowances and compromises that is to the benefit of the relationship while still maintaining ones individuality and being accountable not only to one’s own happiness but to the happiness and success of the relationship.

Example:

• In a marriage/common law or boyfriend/girlfriend relationship the love is always evolving whether that’s good or bad is reliant on the people involved. For instance, when you first fall in love there is the euphoria, the excitement, the ecstasy, the anticipation; it’s a nature’s natural drug (If you can bottle that stuff you’d be a billionaire).
• As time passes however some of that euphoria simmers down and the newest fades and thus begins the true knowing of each other’s idiosyncrasies (ways, habits, flaws etc.). Sometimes it is in learning these personal imperfections (which we all have) is where we learn truly if the person we are with is the person we want to be with for the rest of our lives.

So my answer to your question is two-fold.

1. On a significant level YES because it is that initial love that carries you through and can be sustaining and…
2. NO on a real level because one can grow to truly love a person while not being starry eyed, over the hill in love the first time they meet. This love can manifest sometimes from how well one is loved and cared for by the other person, how one is always considered and decisions made with that consideration in mind, to be put first, to be a priority above all else.

Overall though one must be honest with their self and do what is best for self regardless of what anyone else may think because it is you and only you that will have to live with the circumstances of your decision (choice). I believe that whatever choices you make for the type of relationship you want (choose) your needs, wants, desires and dreams should always be (considered) part of the equation, to make any decision without you in mind will only be detrimental (harmful) to you in the long run.

It is said that if you cannot imagine growing old with the person you are with, cannot visualize (see in your mind’s eyes) or foresee any real future with them then that in itself is a very potent (powerful) answer.

 

Hope that helps, take care

 

Lady D’s Response:  

Hey Bella, Thank you so much for this message. mmmmm, I have re read it, I totally agree with you. I would be very happy if you'd put it on your blog so I can see other people’s perspective on LOVE?

Take care, hugs… Lady D

Lady’s Questions….

• Is love dependant on feelings and if your feelings of love changes does that mean the love is over?
• Should you stay based on the other person's love for you?
• What is your understanding on love?