14 Betrayal services many purposes

When we are first betrayed by ones we trusted we are consumed with hurt followed quickly by self-recrimination blaming ourselves for our poor choice, for not seeing or paying attention to the signs that signaled this person or persons are not trust worthy. It impacts our trust not only in others, it also impact our trust in ourselves and doubt comes in and seats itself comfortably in the psyche. Thus we become afraid, afraid to say too much, afraid to invest too much and afraid of getting too close so much so that we obscure or just plain forget the lessons betrayal brought with it. While we should indeed exercise more caution and mindfulness we should not forget the lessons. Lessons like paying attention to the signs that tell us when we are being lied to, the warnings when there “slip of the tongue” incidences indicate that you should not lay down your confidences even if you are feeling burden and need someone to confide in (find a therapist) or when we get so caught up in our “need” that we blind ourselves to the what IS in preference of “what could be” in other words allowing ourselves to get lost in our desires and needs so much so at times that we render ourselves deaf, dumb and (partner the bluntness), stupid.

MY POINT:

The next time you experience a betrayal pay attention to the lessons. Sure, feel hurt and all that comes with it, just don’t get lost in it as the betrayal serves mulitiple purposes. It serves as a guide to you, on your behalf informing you on what to do, what not to do and when best to exercise mindfulness. Most of all it is a lesson that demands that we trust ourselves and our core instincts when it is screaming up through our being and not deliberately side stepping, denying, ignoring and indulging in self-manipulative practices that render us into obtuse blindness.

MINDFULNESS CAVEAT

Do not allow past poor decisions, failures, hurts and disappointments cause you to abandon yourself and submit your will to those that will trample upon it.

UNDERSTAND:

The Blessed Divine granted you, yes YOU the privilege of free will and choice do not surrender it to anyone and don’t just give it away. The price for such lack of self-care is very high.

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4 SUNSETS

Every day I am thankful

Every day I pray to stay humble and in gratitude.

Sending you all a little sunshine in the form of sunsets. Enjoy

17 SURRENDER

Sometimes the deepest challenge is keeping the Faith high when we're feeling low. In slivered moments of turmoil we forget • In those moments • I look up • I surrender

Keep the Faith.

This too shall pass

YOU

Are not alone

0 Cooking Bug • Tradition

I seldom cook tradition meals in the absolute Traditional way. I have modify most of them to a lighter more healthier version. Every once in a while though, I go there without an ounce of guilt.

Macaroni cheese spinach pie

Macaroni cheese bell peppers pie

Macaroni cheese mixed vegetables pie

They were all so good, I didn't even bother with any type of poultry, seafood or meats. After sharing with family and friends it didn't last as long as I thought it would. Oh wait, I think I put one in the freezer, Yes!

I hope it's still there.

4 POTENTIAL GOD PARENTS • SAY NO IF YOU'RE NOT ABLE

Today I am preparing to attend my 2nd Godson's first communion. I say second for the obvious and not so obvious reasons. I'll get to that later. I take being a Godparent seriously which is why I don't say yes often.

A godparent/godparents are "suppose" take on the responsibility to, sponsor the child's baptism, assist with the child's upbringing and personal development and if God forbid, something should happen to the parent, raise the child as their own. In short, godparents are co-parents. That is a big ask, so if you're not ready to take on that responsibility please say no. Don't accept and then do nothing and your biggest presence is your non-presence.

Parents be more discriminately mindful of whom you chose to be co-parents and life advocates for your children. Think long-term, beyond this person being your "good friend" because essentially you are choosing someone to step into your role if (God forbid) you will no longer be able to.

I had lousy godparents in fact I don't even know who they are or what they look like because frankly they were never a presence in my life. Fatalistically (love that word) sad yet true my choices though slightly better were not that great either (Chuck it to youthful idealism). Of the people I chose only two really showed any real interests throughout the years by remembering birthdays etc,. The rest in all honesty were a crap shoot, which just plain came  up shit. I thought I was choosing well, boy was I wrong. One didn't even remember he had a godchild. I had to remind him. Seriously, parents out there in this big beautiful universe of ours put some real thought into this endeavor of godparenting/co-parenting advocacy because it's about your child/children future.

You're probably wondering what happened to my first godson? The obvious reason, I am here and he is in Trinidad. The not so obvious reason, his mom. When I migrated to Canada I kept in touch, writing to the mom because at the time he was 3 yrs old. She never wrote back, after a few years I gave up, that was 31 years ago. He is a man now probably with children of his own. To him, am a phathom Godparent. I resent his mom for that, though little was in my control. Too often many take on the task, sadly in name only.

I can sincerely say I am a good Godparent. I have too young godsons now, both brothers. They know me and regard me and I am there. I am not a phathom with only my absence as a non-presence and my name on the baptismal certificate the only proof I exist on "godprent-hood."

Got to run.
Have a blessed week

Peace