Today I am preparing to attend my 2nd Godson's first communion. I say second for the obvious and not so obvious reasons. I'll get to that later. I take being a Godparent seriously which is why I don't say yes often.
A godparent/godparents "
suppose" take on the responsibility to, sponsor the child's baptism, assist with the child's upbringing and personal development and if God forbid, something should happen to that child raise the child should anything happen to the parents. In short, godparents are co-parents. That is a big ask, so if you're not ready to take on that responsibility please say no. Don't accept and then do nothing and your biggest presence is your non-presence.
Parents be more mindful of whom you chose to be co-parents of your children. Think long term beyond this person being your "good friend" because essentially you are choosing someone to step into your role if for some reason (God forbid) you will no longer be able to.
I had lousy godparents in fact I don't even know who they are or what they look like because frankly they were never a presence in my life. Fatalistically (love that word) sad yet true my choices though slightly better were not that great either (Chuck it to youth idealism). Of the people I chose only two really showed any real interests throughout the years by remembering birthdays etc,. The rest i all honesty well were a crap shoot, which just plain came up shit. I thought I was choosing well, boy was I wrong. One didn't even remember he had a godchild. I had to remind him. Seriously, parents out there in this big beautiful universe of ours put some real though into this endeavor because it's about your child/children future.
You're probably wondering what happened to my first godson? The not so obvious reason. Well your guess is as good as mine. When I migrated to Canada I kept in touch, writing to the mom because at the time he was 3 yrs old. She never wrote back, after a few years I gave up, that was 31 years ago. He is a man now probably with children of his own. To him, am a phathom Godparent. I resent his mom for that, though little was in my control. Too often many take on the task, sadly in name only.
I can sincerely say I am a good Godparent. I have too young godsons now, both brothers. They know me and regard me and I am there. I am not a phathom with my only presence as the name on the baptismal certificate.
Got to run.
Have a blessed week
Have a blessed week