Jul 18, 2013

22 Pondering on a word – “Expectation”

Expectation(s):

  1. To look forward to something
  2. To wait in hope
  3. To anticipate
  4. To predict
  5. A probability that something may occur

Hmmmmmm….so much lessons sits at my core due to my presumptions of expectations. Lesson I am endeavoured to remember because of the lived experiences wish not to repeat.

I have found that often times Expectations can be the catalyst for disappointments and hurt feelings if the “expectations” is not managed or balanced well with the reality of people (their character, personality, & limitations), situations and circumstances.

While there is absolutely nothing wrong with hoping, dreaming, imagining possibilities it is wise to give equal consideration to the other side of the spectrum before anticipating, predicting and depending upon the hypostasis of possibilities of this or that. It is also wise where necessary to communicate expectations in order to avoid hurt feelings, bruised egos and misunderstandings.

It helps to remember such things as:

1Individual thought (no two people think exactly alike and it is in sharing/communicating we begin to see what each other’s world look like & sound like thereby forming a bridge of understanding),

2Ethos (philosophies and cultures shapes, influences, informs and at times transforms how we think, believe, evaluate and reason)

3Values, (morals, ethics, ideals – things we hold true to ourselves emotionally, psychologically, politically, socially, spiritually may not necessarily have the same impact, though at times we may encounter those of like minds and views it is imperative we keep in mind the reality of the diverse variances.)

4Belief systems (what fuels, motivate and inspires us don’t always move and inspire others)

All of the above are shifting paradigms to match the diversity of human beings across the globe.

MINDFULNESS THOUGHT:

“Differences can be as beautiful as it can be ugly.”

QUESTION:

What are your thoughts on EXPECTATIONS?

22 comments:

  1. Expectation can often lead to disappointment unless you make sure you have considered all the facts and your expectations are realistic!

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    1. Oh without a doubt, you are so correct. Thank you for sharing. Have a blessed day.

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  2. Healthy expectations are good and set boundaries in dealing with others (ie, I expect you to be on time, or to keep your word) If we are upset by the fact that someone has failed to meet our HEALTHY expectations it is important that we do not allow that to become a reflection of ourselves. Unhealthy expectations arise when we give another person sole resposibility for our own happiness and worth which always leads to problems. My personal thought is that it is always good to have minimum expectations that protect self worth, but to be flexible and extend love and friendship without expectations attached.

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    1. ooooh yeah Boundaries-good one, they are key. Such insight. Thank you for sharing and participating in the discussion. I value your input.

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  3. I love your thoughts on the word expectation. I have always loved this quote…

    “The best things in life are unexpected – because there were no expectations.”
    It definitely sums up how feel about the word.:)

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  4. When we set our expections to high for others we may be in for a big disappointment. We should always be realistic with our expections and not project our expectations on to others. I believe in HOPE, DREAMS, and being REALISTIC….

    May your days be filled with God’s rich blessings.~HUGS~Marilyn

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    1. Right back atcha Marilyn and your assessment is a great one-to manage our expectations.

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  5. ‘feels unable to live with Hope/ Expectation… most of mine, i ask of God. and just because He lives, i can face tomorrow ^_^however with fellow men, i guess to avoid that feeling of disappointment… perhaps one shld give w/o strings attached so that if it is reciprocated, then one is twice blessed.

    d2d— i missed you bad.

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  6. I expect to die someday but I hope it won’t be painful.

    On a more serious note…I have to think about that and I’ll be back.

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    1. Ah i think most would echo that sentiment of not dying a painful death.

      You are always welcomed.

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  7. I have learnt not to raise my hopes or put so much into any other person except myself, it hurts when I get disappointed or feel let down

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    1. Oh absolutely, t'is why managing it is key

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  8. expectation for me means hope...sometimes it can be disappointing.

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    1. Hope is a good thing however you have to balance it so that you do not setup yourself up.

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  9. I have spent half a day on the line trying to explain some mistake was made a month easlier.

    It's the moment when I get on the scales and realise that after a full of yers of trying to my weight I'm going on a diet and ploging golf.

    I'am not show I was ok to writing these a not respectable?
    Michiko

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    1. good luck with the weight loss.
      Balance is key to all things its implementing it and mastering it that is the challenge.

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  10. Expectation's for me are pretty hopeful and low-key , wishing and hoping and just maybe...
    Have a Lovely day x

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    1. Yeah its those maybe's when not balance against the realness of life that hurts us.

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  11. Well, I am learning to expect within the boundaries of reality. People have their limits.

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