Dec 18, 2012

49 Emotional Integrity (Honesty/Self-Honesty)

Emotional Integrity is not what you do when others are looking, it is what you do when you think no one is (there are no witnesses).

Some may say, “what they (people) don’t know won’t hurt them,” it may not hurt them but it will most certainly hurt you. Why you may ask? because each time you practice to deceive you are…

  1. changing your perception of yourself
  2. reshaping how you see yourself.

Deception changes ones self-perception negatively hence it impacts ones self-esteem and self-worth.

Why practice emotional integrity?

  • Because it is one of the keys to true self-fulfilment and access to your authentic self.

What could be better than living an authentic life? Its achievable, the seeds were planted by the Divine after all with whom we know all is possible.

Sure we undoubtedly will hit road blocks along the way, encounter trials and tribulations that will buckle our knees and test our commitment and endurance and we will falter that's a given, it happens, its called being human, the point is to pick yourself up each time you fall down/give-in to self-deception and you begin again remembering lessons learnt.

QUESTION WE ALL SHOULD ASK OURSELVES REGARDING EMOTIONAL INTEGRITY

  • Do I practice selective emotional integrity?
  • Do I have emotional integrity?
  • Do I truly understand what emotional integrity is?
  • What steps do I take toward learning and implementing emotional integrity
  • How do I maintain emotional Integrity everyday?
  • How do I insert emotional integrity into my philosophy, ethos and approach to living, being and doing?

MINDFULNESS THOUGHT

"Saying that one is honest does not mean that one IS honest."

D.S.B. Rhapsody©All Rights Reserved.

49 comments:

  1. When I think about it, it seems like there is always someone there as a witness (me) and the potential for others to come along.I agree saying something is so doesn’t in itself make it so.Hugs from Alaska

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    1. ah you are absolutely right, the funny thing is "we" sometimes have the tendency to discount ourselves as witnesses.

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  2. True, true, true! I love this. Sad though, that so many today don’t care one way or the other, they are content to be less than honest thinking people believe their self assessment.

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    1. Yeah, to live with and maintain emotional integrity takes a deep commitment, so often many of us are chastised and disregarded when we operate with integrity. That negative backlash can be discouraging and it feels as if it supports the idea of surrender to seeming "norm" half truths and truths of omissions. It is in these exact moments when we hold true to emotional integrity because without it we are empty

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  3. Completely true and things that I have thought of many times before as well. I’m glad you have them here for consideration.May this year be blessed for you and your loved ones.

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    1. Thank you, may this coming year be for you all that you desire.

      peace.

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    1. hmmmm, glad you feel a consensus to whats written/shared.

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  5. A great thought to use this coming new year! :)

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    1. Absolutely, we can only benefit from its application.

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  6. I will certainly have to agree with you about that!

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  7. Hmmmm....saying one is honest does not me IS honest! And it is what you do when noone is looking....I LIKE!
    Eye-service is what it is called when one does what they want people to see or hear or know,but inside them they have different thoughts.

    Well, whatever humans do, GOD is not deceived! HE knows all our thoughts and motives, and HE judges on that!

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    1. Ah the "Machiavellian" way (expediency above morality)

      True, very true

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  8. You make a very good point :-)

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  9. Emotional Integrity is also a way to true happiness and all-around joy. We should not only look to doing good for ourselves, but for others as well.

    Thanks for sharing! :)

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    1. correct, absolutely, insightful feedback thanks.

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  10. The questions we should be asking ourselves though,deep self search. "Saying that one is honest does not mean that one IS honest."

    Word,iconcur..

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    1. Thank you for your concurrence Darling.

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  11. Just checking in to see how you are. Hope all is going well and you are enjoying these beautiful days we're having.

    All is well here in my part of the country, lil man is keeping us all busy and on our toes.

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    1. Thank you for checking in. I am doing good and counting my blessings.

      I have a 3 year old God son that keeps me busy as well, he just got a new brother so life is fitting to be interesting.

      Happy holidays and much love to you and yours.

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  12. A very thought provoking post. And i like the quote: "saying that one is honest does not mean that one is"

    Thanks for checking me up, I had so much on my plate- it's all sorted now tho'. How are you too?

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    1. I am blessed
      I will always make the time to check-in and see how you doing.

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  13. the point is to pick yourself up each time you fall down/give-in to self-deception and you begin again remembering lessons learnt.

    I couldn't agree more! In fact, as I reflect upon my own trials and tribulations, I seem to be the type to pick myself up from whatever stumbling blocks and continue into my journey. Since I've overcome some major heartache I feel like there's an inner strength which now accompanies my spirit.

    Positive blog.

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    1. Sounds good to me, that strength is what you have to remember when you hit those road blocks in life, its what will allow you to pick yourself up.

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  14. I love this. *made me think*
    Thanks for stopping by my blog

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    1. Thank you, thinking is good.
      No problem.

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  15. I don't know Rhapsody, I like to filter through my emotional stack as the situation demands. reality (as I see it) demands one must be selective, self preservation, navigation through the jungle of life etc. so sometimes I'm hopping mad but I grit my teeth and force a smile and vice versa

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    1. Blessings....
      Thank you for sharing your wisdom/philosophy

      The wisdom of discretion (time/place/appropriateness) is always wise, its what the old folk call "choosing your battles" knowing what to lay down and what to pick up, none of those necessary processes/filters negate emotional integrity, in fact it enhances it.

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  16. A while back I took a long look within and didn't like what I saw. I'm not the same person I was when I wore a younger man's clothes. So I checked myself and now I'm striving to do much better. I didn't like where my personal brand was going. I decided to make a change.

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    1. hmmmmmmm....that is a courageous thing to do though not easy, it requires a lot of strength to face ones not so great characteristics and then actively work toward doing better. I applaud you.

      Peace...
      Welcome & thanks for stopping by and sharing your wisdom

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  17. "What people don't know won't hurt them" smh. I agree it's false because out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. It might not be short term but long term it will affect you.

    onecurator.blogspot.com

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    1. "out of the abundance of the heart mouth speaks" I like that, wise words, thanks for sharing.

      Welcome, hope to see you again.

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  18. We can't really change our own perception of ourselves unless we have really changed what we know needs changing, imho. And that's why holier-than-thou attitudes do not pay anyone. Hence the saying...we should remove the log in our eyes before judging others. Emotional integrity is important but most of us humans suck at it as we are so judgmental.

    Compliments of the season to you sista and best wishes for the new year.

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    1. hmmmmm, indeed "we" are judgmental.
      n other words we must be willing to truly listen and not just here so we can examine and take the necessary steps to honor ourselves and emotion integrity.

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  19. Good post! Gives me enough material to plan my new year resolution.. Wish you a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

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    1. Ah, that good, its all doable.
      Season greetings to you and yours.

      All the best.

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  20. Nice post and certainly one aspect of life 2013 we should all improve on.

    I think sometimes honesty is imperative and but depends on situations. There are times when you may need to protect someone by witholding an honest opinion. There areother scenarios which warrant an honesty to save someone from themselves (particularly the deluded)

    However as individuals unless we can find it within to be honest with ourselves, trying to deal with emotional integrity will most certainly feel like the proverbial dog chasing it's tail. Comfort comes when one is truly honest from within.

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    1. hmmmmmmm......"as individuals unless we can find it within to be honest with ourselves, trying to deal with emotional integrity will most certainly feel like the proverbial dog chasing it's tail." right you are, however though i understand I pause at this statement "sometimes honesty is imperative and but depends on situations." As it begs the question "can there be such a things as selective emotional integrity?"

      Quite insightful, thank you for participating and adding your wisdom to the discussion it really allow me to expand on my thoughts on the subject.

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  21. Great and inspiring post...

    Thanks for sharing

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    1. thank you for coming, reading and responding.

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  22. Wishing you a merry Christmas and happy new year.
    The Lord's blessing be upon you as we walk into 2013.

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    1. Blessings and merry Christmas to you and your family, may joy and great health permeate your household and lives.

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  23. Whoa, this is all me.. I am my worst critic... When I'm by myself, I am always trying to figure out how to make myself a better human... This is something that I am doing right now as I am writing this... LOL!!!

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    1. hmmm, am guilty of that same thing. Can i recommend a book am reading now? I think it would intrigue you or at the very least get your creative juices flowing. Now I didn't say you would like it, only you can determine that. Its called "The Untethered Soul-the journey beyond yourself" by Michael A. Singer

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