Oct 11, 2011

20 THOUGHT OF THE DAY–ADVICE

Advice, counsel, guidance, inevitable at some point in your life people will come to you for it whether it be friends, family, colleagues or complete strangers. When that moment comes there are just a few things you need to consider.
 
When giving advice it is always wise to remember that the person receiving your counsel has the inherent right to choose whether or not your recommendations is applicable to their circumstance, life, and experience.

IN OTHER WORDS...
When all is said and done, in spite of your time, effort, compassion, empathy, sympathy and guidance people will decide what is best for their selves and apply it accordingly.
 
SIMPLY PUT...
You cannot insist to whom you are giving the advice that they must do as you say, when you say, how you say. It’s not about you; it’s about them and what they feel is relevant and what will work or will not work.
 
MY POINT…
Keep your ego in check; leave it out of it equation. If your ego is too fragile to handle the truth of individual choice, then you need not be giving advice; frankly you would be better off keeping your opinions to yourself.
 
D.S.B.Rhapsody©All Rights Reserved

20 comments:

  1. Good to put the ego aside for both advice giver and receiver.Thanks for the reminder which is always helpful.Hugs from Alaska

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  2. So right you are. I guess this is why we get "huffy" when someone does not follow our advice, we forgot (or never knew) that it was about them and not about us. Thanks for putting it in perspective. I don’t remember ever seeing it or hearing it put this way. Hopefully, from now on I will remember this wise counsel of yours. Thanks again.Have a good weekend and I’ll see you next week.

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  3. Good morning Fab…Thank you for always checking in on me. Its good to be back. Excellent words of advice.Especially, “It’s not about you; it’s about them.”Wouldn’t the world be a better place if we all let go of our ego’s.Hmmm…Now I want an “Eggo” waffle.Have a wonderful week and warm sunshine surround you…

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  4. yup, people have to right to take or ignore the advices they receive. and we must not expect the other person to accept our advice blindly. :) nice thoughts you jot down. small things that matter a lot in life!

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  5. I know when I’ll ask you for an advice you’ll be there for me, thanks for being who you are.Hugs from Quito.

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  6. All suggestions from genuine friends or relatives need not be termed as unsolicited advice.People do not make suggestions to all and sundry save those whom they consider close.It is however the right of the individual to accept or reject such suggestions.The question of ego crops up only when there is insistence.

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  7. Thank you all

    @KParthasarathi hmmmmm, good points "ego crops up only when there is insistence." however i beg to differ on people not giving unsolicited advice, there are some people who have an opinion on everything and anything and are not shy about sharing it without an invitation.

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  8. I would also add if you are asking for advice you should also put your ego aside as well.

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  9. Your point at the end is just perfect!

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  10. @Kay Thank you, so many times i have had people say to me, but I told her/him to do so and so and she never took my advice, he/she should have, why they ask me if they wasn't going to do as I say. They get all caught up and angry because the person chose to exercise their right not to take the advice given.

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  11. Ego is the main reason why some people expect people to just take their advice by force... it doesn't work that way; they have a choice! Awesome words..

    - LDP

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  12. You are right. People have the right to accept or reject your advice.

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  13. very good advice. Enjoy your day...G-Bird

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  14. So True & on point. Thanks for sharing or for the constant checking up on me,new post is UP :)

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  15. Advice is only a guide. One can choose to take it or not to. Insisting that the recipient of the advice must take it moves it away from the category of advice to the category of commandment.

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  16. @LE DYNAMIQUE PROFESSEUR You got that right, it gets us in trouble all the time if we fail to keep it in check.

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  17. @mairedubhtx49 yes, sometimes though when it comes to others we seem to forget that fact though we seldom forget our own right to.

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  18. @DIDI,thank you and you are most certainly welcome.

    @Natural Nigerian hmmmmm, commandment, nice way of framing it, i like it.

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