Mar 9, 2013

38 HELP

SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO ASK FOR IT

helpOften time’s people silently wait for the offer of assistance from others. They do it in either of two ways, to miraculously through telepathy communicate the need for help or erroneously assume that help will automatically and spontaneously bloom from the share force of their will. When the offer for help is not forth coming, they become irritated, resentful, angry and judgmental, criticizing, chastising and demoralizing the person mentally and at times verbally with anyone and everyone who would lend an ear (listen).

The question is, who are they really angry with? Their selves for not advocating for self on their own behalf or to the person with whom they fail to communicate their need due to pride, fear, assumptions or some unrealistic expectation, when the solution is as simple as asking?...

If someone neglects to automatically/spontaneously offer you help, simply ask for it. What’s wrong with asking? Just be realistic and mindful however that the person(s) being asked has the right to choose to refuse, either way one has nothing to lose really. If they assist you, great! It means that the journey will be shorter and less encumbered. If they do not, well then one has to simply take a deep breath and carry on as before and accomplish the task at hand.

Do not be inconsiderate of yourself by suffering in silence and refusing to ask for help, as others at times maybe inconsiderate of you by refusing to help.

It is wise to learn the skill of self-advocacy, to advocate for one self, and stop placing blame and pointing the finger at everyone else. While it’s great to get help and be supported, it should be understood that sometimes one may have to journey part of the way alone…

The fact is this: Your happiness is your responsibility, as are your successes, failures, joys and triumphs.

Ask for what you want and remember no is not a bad thing, if nothing else...it will make you realize what you are made of...

Peace.

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