Feb 27, 2013

40 Love & Music, Love & Self

I am not an avid country song fan per se, however I am a lover of music and every so often I come across a song by a country artist that just hits the spot, speaks to me and resonates in my bones. Now am not talking about the old country standards some of which were downright depressing when singers crooned endlessly about how their dog died, their house burnt down, their wife left, they got audited by the IRS, got constipated and accidentally shot their selves in the toe and had to cut off the toe to save the foot because they were miles away from a medic or a hospital. Lordddd have mercy no.

I am talking about those songs with lyrics that parallel the human emotions, fears and insecurities that reach in and lift you. I was watching a rerun of one of my favorite shows “Touch by an Angel,” it was a follow up of a previous episode starring Wynonna Judd a grieving mother that lost her son (which I never get to watch until a couple days ago). The song “That’s what makes you strong”, was a tribute to her son. Now I know for those of you who listen to country music on a daily basis may say “that an old song” but for me, who is not inclined to deliberately listen to country music, it’s new. It was refreshing. I love music but I am way past listening to music simply for the beat, it has to mean something. If it’s not an instrumental then the lyrical content is important and every once in a while you get a good combination. This song has that magic combination at least to me, so I’d like to share it (lyrics) with you..


If you love somebody 
Then that means you need somebody 
And If you need somebody
That's what make you weak 
If you know your weak
Then you know need you someone 
Oh, it's a funny thing but 
That's what make you strong…….
That's what gives you power 
That's what lets the meek come sit beside the king 
That's what let's us smile in our final hour 
That's what moves our souls and 
That's what makes us sing 
To trust somebody
Is to be disappointed 
It's never what you wanted 
And it happens every time 
But if you’re the trusting kind 
This don't even cross your mind 
And Oh it's a funny thing but 
That's what make you strong……

So many of us are battered and bruised from loving and being loved inappropriately that we become fearful, afraid to show our weaknesses, our need to be loved and we retreat inside ourselves and become overly cautious, tentative about sharing ourselves and giving ourselves in fear of being singe by the fire. Let’s face it no one intentionally flies into a fire knowing they will get burnt but a life of endless solitude and isolation is hardly the alternative. Yes wisdom advises us to be cautious, wiser, mindful, more discerning by learning from our mistakes, shared and lived experiences however we must also be heedful to not go to the extreme and cut off our air supply by allowing ultra-alertness to stifle our spirits, deteriorate our instincts, impacting our hearts and atrophying our ability to love.

Mindfulness Thought:

Human beings did not come with instructions and there is no manual for detecting bull shit or deciphering malice agendas one of the key for learning/sharpening discernment is self-trust, to pay attention and listen to your gut instincts, to not  over simplify and not complicate matters that would allow you to override your natural intuition. Teach yourself to see things as they are and not as you would like/want them to be but AS THEY ARE! Know when it’s your stuff getting in the way/clouding the issue, the distinction is very important and will go a long way in saving you from undue heartache. 

Art-Diva “N” Key by Frank Morrison


  1. I totally agree with you on that country music tip. There are a lot of songs that make me sit back and think and then want to listen to the song again and again. If the lyrics are good I don’t care what genre the music is.

    There are so many songs that I love that have great lyrics but one just recently makes me think and that is "Crazy" by Gnarls Barkley. I love the song so much but he sings so fast I really didn’t know what he was singing about thank God for Google!

    Here ya go:

    I remember when, I remember, I remember when I lost my mind There was something so pleasant about that phase. Even your emotions had an echo In so much space And when you’re out there Without care, Yeah, I was out of touch But it wasn’t because I didn’t know enough I just knew too much Does that make me crazy Does that make me crazy Does that make me crazy Probably And I hope that you are having the time of your life But think twice, that’s my only advice Come on now, who do you, who do you, who do you, who do you think you are, Ha ha ha bless your soul You really think you’re in control Well, I think you’re crazy I think you’re crazy I think you’re crazy Just like me My heroes had the heart to lose their lives out on a limb And all I remember is thinking, I want to be like them Ever since I was little, ever since I was little it looked like fun And it’s no coincidence I’ve come And I can die when I’m done Maybe I’m crazy Maybe you’re crazy Maybe we’re crazy Probably

    1. I am incline to agree, "if the lyrics are good i don't care what the genre."

  2. For All We Know – Donny Hathaway
    For all we knowWe may never meet againBefore you goMake this moment sweet againWe won’t say goodnightUntil the last minuteI’ll hold out my handAnd my heart will be in itFor all we knowThis may only be a dreamWe come and we goLike the ripples of a streamSo love me, love me tonighttomorrow was made for sometomorrow may never comefor all we know
    I love music; there are so many songs in various genres that fill me with something new each time I listen. This is my all time favorite. Enjoy! :)

    1. hmmmmmmm.....sounds deep. sounds family, i think i gotta go back and have a listen.

  3. I love you.Go commando, eh? :) Awesome, your song on strength in being weak. Oh, this paradoxical life! Victor Hugo once said, "Music expresses that which cannot be said and on which it is impossible to be silent." Indeed. Often, when my thoughts get lost in words; I find myself pounding away on the piano… reduced to mere sound. I like instrumental music best but since you’d like the song with lyrics of resonance, I choose a vocalist who is my favourite:JOSH GROBAN "Never Let Go"I can’t understand it.
    The search for an answer is met with a darker day.
    And we’ve been handed these moments forever.
    But I’m reassured there’s another way.
    You don’t have to close your eyes.
    There is room for love again.
    Ease the pain to realize
    All that love can be.
    Forced apart by time and sand.
    Take a step and take my hand.
    And don’t let it go.
    Never let go.

    Broken, once connected,
    We were so strong and so blessed in a simple way.
    So don’t let me go it alone.
    Turn your head up to the sky.
    Nothing down below but me.
    Face the truth to realize
    All that we could be.
    Torn apart by rage and fear.
    Hold onto what brought you here.
    Don’t let it go.
    Never let go.

    Turn your head up to the sky.
    Nothing down below.
    Don’t let go

    1. yeah sometimes life dictates a little commando..hehe.

      hmmmmm, love Josh also, he has a depth and passion of delivery. great song.

  4. hello,,,I am not sure if I am back or not but I will take a moment and "widen your field of interest" now I am not a country music fan ( ZZ Top is my idea of country music,,,, hey they ARE from texas after all) but I think you should check out the old rock band "the doors" ,,, Morrison in my opinion summed it up best in the tune " People are strange" ,, I am not going to quote the lyrics for you,, it should be easy enough to find them but actually that is a song that is best taken as a whole,, allowing the lyrics and the music to work together to make a point
    Happy listening

    1. hmmmmmmm...i know of those artist though i cannot say that i voluntarily seek out those particular singers, though I am sure I've heard one or two songs from them.

      Thanks for the ref..

  5. I found your page from blaqmind and I love this blog entry - I too am a music feeler! Some of the songs and artists already posted are favs of mine so trying to through yet another type of song into this mix I am going to put a new song on here – "Teachme" by Musiq Soulchild. It takes a lot for a young man these days to put his fears aside and say what he’s saying… it touches my heart whenever I hear it. Another ones is Christina Aguilera "Beautiful"… I like songs that are sung with feeling…

    [Verse 1:] I was told the true definition of a man, was to never cry (Work till your tired, yea, got to provide, yea.) Always be the rock for my fam, protect them by all means, And give you the needs that you need, baby Our relationship is suffering, trying give you what I never had You say I don’t know how to love babe, But I say, "show me the way" I keep my feeling deep inside, I, shadow them with my pride eye I’m trying desperately baby, just work with me [Chorus:] Teach me how to love Show me the way to surrender my heart Girl I’m so lost, teach me how to love How I can get my emotions involved, teach me Show me how to love Show me the way to surrender my heart Girl I’m so lost, teach me how to love How I can get my emotions involved, teach me How to love [Verse 2:] I was always taught to be strong, never let them think you care at all Let no one get close to me, before you and me I then shared things with you girl bout my past, that I never tell To anyone else (no), just keep it to my self (yes) Girl I know I lack affection, and expressing my feelings It took me a minute to come and admit this but See I’m really trying change now, wanna love you better show me how I’m trying desperately baby, please work with me [Chorus:] [Verse 3:] Ain’t nobody ever took the time to try teach me what love was but you And I have never trust no one enough to tell me what to do Teach me how to show and, show how to love you babe (Teach me, please just show me yea) Cause, I’m willing, to let go of my fears, girl I’m serious about all that I say Girl I wanna love you, with all of my heart Baby show me where to start [Chorus:] Teach me, how to love, you babe Teach me how to love you better, know I wanna love you better girl.

    1. Oh am familiar with Musiq Soulchild he is a deep singer, powerful lyrics wonderful delivery and i especially like |"Teach Me How To Love"|

  6. I’m a fan of music myself. There is a saying that what in the heart leaves the heart; therefore some country will resonate in my R&B soul. Thanks for stoping by and come again. Your blog is really good.
    Stay cool.

  7. When I was little my father used to ask me "Who is the most important person in your life?" I would answer…"You are daddy". He would say to me, "No, YOU are the most important person in your life." As I got older I understood what he was trying to tell me. I had to look out for me first, love myself first before I could love anyone else and before they would love me. It took me quite awhile before I truly understood that. In my life I am continually challenged, and I have to continually remind myself that I love myself. It is an ongoing struggle in my life.

    Thanks for stopping by my place. It is always nice to see new faces.

    1. Profound and beautiful lesson, so few of us have this lesson taught to us at such a impressionable age as when we are laying the foundation of who we are.......lucky you were. thanks for sharing.

  8. Thanks for your visit to my blog site and the comments on my guest register. There is an old saying that the all the earth is a stage and we are all playing our parts on that stage. Learning more about the world and how to make this planet a better place to live will not only enrich our lives but it will prepare humanity for the day when we branch out and begin exploring and settling on other worlds. It may not be today or tomorrow but soon there will be people from Earth going to the Moon,to Mars, and beyond to seek out other intelligent life and share experiences and cultures. If we can get it right on this planet, then our venture into the cosmos will be a grand adventure! I am learning new things about this wonderful world I live in every day and hope you are too. Have a great day and a wonderful tomorrow!!!!
    (((((( Doug ))))))

    1. blessings
      you are very welcome, i did have a wonderful day and I plan to have a fantastic tomorrow should the Divine see fit to allow me the grace of rising to experience life.

  9. Hello…
    I came for a visit from my good friend Baby T.
    Hmmm…I’m not an avid country western music fan. But like others a few songs jump out at me. Recently, a song caught my ear, “The Clothes Don’t Make the Man.”
    Designer names
    Rips and stains
    Shouldn’t tell you who I am
    Yeah, the clothes don’t make the man.
    Artist/Band: Keith Anderson
    When can fix our thoughts on what is good and right.
    Think about things that are pure and lovely.
    We can dwell on the fine and good things in others.
    There is always a blessing we can be glad about.
    Have a wonderful week and thank you for allowing me to visit, Greg

    1. Welcome Greg....
      Ah that is wonderfully profound and gets to the heart of the matter.

      will see that out...think i've heard it put will seek it again to renew and experience it.

  10. Hi there,
    that was a classic piece of psychoogy and philosophy very well blended..
    I have always believed in the fact that only by loving or letting others love us is that we hurt ourselves and others too, and thaz so true. and weelll the most difficult thing as you have stated is by taking the galsses off our eyes, and getting ourselves out of Paradigm paralysis.
    nice one.
    chk out the song
    Alabama – Angels among us

    Take care and keep writing

  11. Thanks for stopping by my place and leaving the nice comment. I love what you have here. Such a feeling of calm and getting back in touch. How can I possibly pick the song!? I hear ya on the country tunes though. Sometimes I hear one that just gets me. For country, I’d have to pick Tim McGraw’s, Live Like You We’re Dying. For my personal journey, I’d have to pick my girl Lauryn Hill, Tell Him. Oooh! I need to pull out my iPOD. Take care! -T

    1. you are welcome
      thank you
      oh i love that song, "live like you were dying"

  12. Thanks for stopping by! You have got to get access to some of that good neo-soul music!! LOL – But I totally understand – I lived in thia small town in Pennsylvania for a few years and I was so far behind on the music. Lately I’ve been playing a constant stream of Ne-Yo, Musiq Soulchild and Robin Thicke… with a few others sprinkled in!

    1. I am familiar with Musiq Soulchild and Robin Thicke.....nice music

  13. Hi! Thanks for stopping by my blog last week – I love your blog – what a beautiful entry this is – I saw Wynonna in concert twice and her voice is so amazing and reaches to the very fibre of your being. I have many songs I love – but I am going to come up with the one that has influenced my thoughts the most and come back……:) see you soon. ttfn ~ tressie

  14. The Judds are considered classic country artists. This is a great song!

  15. I'm old enough to have learned a few things in my life, but I still get fooled.

    I've always loved Dolly Parton. Country isn't the first type of music I go to, but when it's playing I enjoy it.

    1. I think that is true for all of us, it is impossible to know everything and everyone's intention....you simply live and learn.

  16. It lovely your all item about you which is I would like all over from yours.
    at memories of the years all happy with me.
    When we has hot weather day just nice to stayed home just lovely
    song and you have too......

  17. Beautiful song. Lmao @your description of regular country song. Classic lol.

    Try to find Lee Ann Womack's I hope You Dance and Something Worth Living For

  18. You are so right, and this is a beautiful song :-)

  19. I liked the last two paras of yours.Failures happen in relationships but one swallow doesn't make a summer.A life long loneliness after one mistake is not the right thing as you have said.The suggestion of self trust and accepting things as they are seems right

  20. Good song and good message. Balance is key. And, things might have been bad all one's life, but today is a new day. I work hard not to let yesterday's hurts and disappointments taint today's behavior. Gets a little easier as I get older.

    1. That is a wise way to be and you are right, balance is the key.


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