If you cannot be your true self,
The person you are to the core
In all your relationships
Whether it be friendships,
Marriage,
Family,
What is the point?
Why are you there?
If not to keep it real,
Be real and make it better,
Why are you there?
What motivates you to stay in a state of relationship decay?
To die a thousand deaths each day ...
Till the soul of your faith gets eaten away
Relinquishing effort for a chameleon’s display
What are you afraid of?
What lies do you tell yourself?
What is the benefit to you living an inauthentic life?
Who do you really think you are fooling?
How long you do plan to keep on pretending…
Pointing the finger,
Blaming everybody else but self for your wealth of unhappiness
When are you going to rise up and just be!
Stop selling your soul and your personal integrity
In life you cannot please everybody
To be anything or anyone other than your authentic self …
Is to set yourself up for hurt,
To deliberately guarantee …
An existence filled with disappointments
An endless string of suffocating baggage …
Inherited from the experiences of living a life of self-deception
It is much easier to be yourself and…
A hell of a lot less complicated to be who you are,
Whoever that is,
Whatever that is,
However that is.
It IS ENOUGH.
DSB Rhapsody©2008/09/10/11 All rights reserved….
WONDERFUL! I LOVED YOUR WORDS HERE. I THOUGHT I WAS MYSELF UNTIL JUST RECENTLY (THE PAST 18 MONTHS). I KNOW I AM UNIQUE AND TALENTED AND ‘DIFFERENT’. I FINALLY KNOW THAT I CAN AND SHOULD LIVE MY DAYS FOR ME…YET CARE FOR THOSE I LOVE IN MY OWN WAY. IT’S GOOD. A FRIEND FROM HIGH SCHOOL ALWAYS SIGNS OFF HIS CORRESPONDENCE WITH….TREASURE YOURSELF, DIANNA
ReplyDeletePS . I COULD GO ON FOREVER ON THIS SUBJEST, BUT I GIVE PRAISE THAT I HAVE FINALLY SEEN THE LIGHT!
Interesting piece…but with a personal touche to it.
ReplyDeleteTrying to please others all in the name of being a ‘Mr. Nice Guy’ or showing that we need to care for others is somewhat obvious in me; i know one needs to reach out to others but at what cost and detriment to oneself? i recently said NO to a request made by my younger sister when she called me on the phone and said that she needed money for the drugs she bought while she was sick and admitted in the hospital. On a good day, Moi would have consented to her request but now, i gotta be me, face my life and handle my relationship in the best way to bring out the best expected result for me and the other party.
Thanks Dear for bringing this up…..
You’re a …….
Hey Thanks for adding to my "Your Random-Acts" spot on my space . Wish more people would.NOW about this post …. Thank You… Just like "Mama of the Kastle Kidz" I did not understand I wasn’t being honest with myself until after I was tricked into getting sober. yeah tricked !! It was a setup all the way. Anyway, now, well into my 6th year I have a bit of a clue on "To Thine Own Self Be True" Thanks for the Reminder. I still want people to like me. I sometimes go out of my way to help another. But this time. I do it because I honestly want to, not to manipulate. Sometimes when asked I still say NO!! …. See Its easier to say No and change my mind to Yes than to say Yes and change my mind to No. With me what ya see is what ya get. like it or not.
ReplyDeletefor me, i think i stay cos of the truth, i see from many angles. truth is very vast and sometimes we have only experienced small bits of it. anyways, i guess, its just the wanting. i want him. full. dot.stop. hard to express but deeply felt. smiles. thank you for stopping by. hope your week’s going good.
ReplyDeleteThis is wonderful! I didn’t truly understand..
ReplyDeleteRelinquishing effort for a chameleon’s display
What are you afraid of? until sobriety four years ago, thanks for sharing!!!
Have a great day! (and thanks for visiting while I was gone ;o) )
My comment must not have been very clear LOL imagine that! I totally got what the phrase means, but I was trying to say that until I entered sobriety (4 years ago) I did not understand, but today I do… :o) Thanks for responding though, next time I will make my comments more clear :o)
ReplyDeleteSurely you have had experience. I can see that honesty with others and your self is important . Bless you.
ReplyDeleteWow, I think you were reading my mind, you just described how I have been feeling. Its time to make a break and be true to myself before one loses who they are. Have a great week.
ReplyDeleteWell said, man! Lots of people out there who are chameleons … people pleasers. And it’s just like you said …
ReplyDeleteAnyway, have a good week.
Great Post. Thank You for your words of wisdom. I hope your weekend is filled with wonderful and joyous things! Take care.
ReplyDeletedear Fabulicious,This is fantastic, as many things you write.I feel you’re one of the happy persons I know. You write what you feel, right?Thanks for the messages you sent me in my space.
ReplyDeleteListen to one of my favorite songs of Mario Frangoulis at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SBVM-cUb6RM.Many Hugs for you and your girls.
Well Said!!
ReplyDeleteIsn’t that the truth? Sweetheart, JoJo’s has snagged this for today. Thank you for such heart in your words! Blessings!
ReplyDeleteWOW!!! Great truths. It took a long time for me to "get" this. You are right…it is enough!
ReplyDeleteExcellent! I reread this; your words really made me stop and think!
ReplyDeleteWell said. It took me 40 years to realize that but I say better late than never.
ReplyDeleteWhatever be the reason, most of us disguise ourselves and show a different face than our own.The motivations may be many but the truth is we show our unreal selves.The truth cannot be hidden forever and the fake face would be ripped apart.The message that we should be true to ourselves fearlessly and honestly has been put across forcefully by Rhapsody.
ReplyDeleteA great post as usual that I learnt a lots of from you and agrees with you too.
ReplyDeleteMy way of life is keep simple and tell truth though so far that I don't regret for in my life.
Thank goodness I was lucky in the way.
I guess that you had encourage for people who in the blog land.
You have a great day.
Excellent! You definitely have a talent for composing.
ReplyDeleteDeep. Every now and then, we all need to reminded to be our true selves
ReplyDeleteOn point. This was beautiful and deep, reminds me of some of my relationships. God bless you for sharing
ReplyDeleteThe words TOUCHED me....why not be yourself...you can't please everybody.....so greater truth than that becox as humans we WISH to be like others and wants everybody to LIKE us...thank you ma'am for these words od wisdom.
ReplyDeleteHi Rhapsody,
ReplyDeleteGood poem.
Love,
Herrad
ps Richie is making me chicken curry tonight.
Great post!!! when you try to be someone else, you loose who you truly are.
ReplyDeleteGirrrrl, you better speak THAT! Aaaaamen!
ReplyDeleteLordy lord! u write so beautiully.
ReplyDeleteDeep words. We can't please everyone no matter what we do. The best thing is definitely to be ourselves.
ReplyDeleteThanks for stopping by my blog.
Such truth in this poem. Reminds me of Ibhade's post.
ReplyDeleteIt is always so much easier and less stressful to be yourself. The thing is one cannot hide in a lie forever, why punish oneself daily fearing being found out... I dont know why some people do it...
So true....!!!! Why live a lie?
ReplyDeleteSomeone said, "...a relationship is not supposed to be hard work...." so, if one's relationship (work, family, friends) is hardwork and does not allow one to be oneself, tis not exactly worth it.
ReplyDeleteHello,
ReplyDeleteLovely write up and very useful information. Very modern thinking. I think this is the reason why many marriages are breaking up. People marry,live together for a few years and then find someone else whom they think are more compatible and the earlier marriage ends of in divorce. Children not only suffer in the process but they also learn the same thing from the parents and perhaps do even worse. We also know of people having children out of wedlock and others who are single parents. Recently I read about the Australian lady Finance minister who is a gay and her partner is expecting a child from a male relationship. All these are modern ways of living. I am amazed and bewildered at what is happening all around me.
Best wishes,
Joseph