When unexpected things happen that we cannot immediately fix or have to wait through a successions of tasks before things can even out or be amended we worry.If we are living hand to mouth, pay cheque to pay cheque and have to carefully stay within the parameters of a tight almost impossible budget, always having to strategically determine the priority (most important to what can wait a bit) in which to pay our bills, we worry.
When unexpected expenses occurs that was not budgeted for or is way above our means and ability to pay because there is little to no savings to draw from, we worry.
Sometimes in life the wisest course of action is to take things one day at a time and try not worry, operative word “try” (easier said than done I know) because worrying really does not help; what it does is adds to the problem, it perpetuates negative stress levels and make coping unbearable. Worrying is not a proactive solution, it offers no resolutions. Think of it this way…
If worrying about a particular situation or circumstance is not contributing positively, making things better, helping make the load easier to carry or supporting you in remaining healthy and strong so that you are able to face whatever there is to come, then what’s the point of worry? "Let It Go". Unless of course worrying puts money in your bank account, clothes on your back, pays the rent/mortgage, puts food on the table, takes you to and from work, assist with childcare and mows the lawn all without your assistance …then by all means, worry! If not, then, let it go.
Worrying is an unproductive self-deprecating waste of time and good energy that does nothing to foster self-confidence, good will or hope.
Mindfulness Thought…
When faced with what feels like insurmountable challenges in your life, first things first, breathe! Take some deep breaths from the diaphragm to center yourself and counter the panic racing through your mind and threatening to overtake your body. Most of all, think. Be proactive, ask yourself these questions:
- what are the things that are in my control?
- What can i proactively do about the things that are within my control, to make things better, minimize the fallout/damage, to salvage anything salvageable?
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What are the things that are not within my control?
- How do I set in place healthy coping mechanisms that minimize my stress levels and support me staying emotionally, psychologically and physically healthy and positive through this process?
Sometimes coping maybe mean taking it day to day, one day at a time, hour at a time, one moment at a time. It may mean asking for assistance where you would not have ask for help. The key is to be proactive and take care of yourself inside out/outside in. No one said it would be easy but no one said it would be hard either. You choose which it would be for you.
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Repost, first published June 1, 2009
Very rightly said.Worrying unduly without doing anything has never solved any problem.It only magnifies it more.But a certain amount of worry is not amiss to bestir one into action towards satisfactory resolution of the problems.
ReplyDeleteMagnify, that it does indeed. hmmmmm....bestir one into action, hmmmm, i suppose i see your point, at times it acts like a motivator to get one proactive so to speak?
DeleteTruer words have never been spoken. My grandmother's words come to mind here (as they often do for me). She always said it was a sin to worry because it showed a lack of faith in God and His provision for our lives. And as we hear in Matthew 6:25, "Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?".
ReplyDeleteGreat post...thanks for sharing this. I really needed to hear it today too!
God bless!
Preach it Trudy! Now if only we can adhere to Mathews 6:25, we would all be blessed...over and over.
DeleteThis is really true and very well written. It's so hard not to worry. I think people (including myself) start thinking about what they can do to solve the problem or about what's going on and before they know it they're worrying.
ReplyDeleteYes this is very true and i to am very guilty of worrying way behond my control, its why I know its counter productive.
DeleteI need to "Let go" soooo much. These past few weeks have been H_ll! By reading your wonderful 'wisdom' I know I CAN do it. "No man is an island." Thank you!
ReplyDeleteCory
Ain't that the truth though!
DeleteI love this post. Thanks for sharing this. I agree that, "truer words have never been spoken." AND, "worry shows a lack of faith". It usually takes a minute for me to get a grip on myself whenever I start to worry.
ReplyDeleteThank you....
DeleteYou show great self-awarness if you are able to catch yourself in the trios of worry and are able to pull back.
Worrying won't get you anywhere - searching for a solution might... Not having enough money is VERY hard. What got you there ? what keeps you there ? What other options are there to bring in additional income or to change your situation for the better, if any ? Usually there is something that can be done... but not always. some things people don't want to do. Tough situation, especially when you don't have all of the facts, which obviously I don't here !
ReplyDeleteFabulous insight, thanks for sharing.
DeleteHi:)
ReplyDeleteGreetings:)
I suppose too much worrying is not good for health and sometimes it paralyses our brain and prevents us from taking decisive action.
Worrying to some extent is always good because it keeps a person alert and move in the right direction to solve the problem that is worrying him.
A person who doesn’t worry about his future can become a spendthrift and do reckless things which will land him into serious trouble.
When I was a young recruit in a company, my elderly boss said, ” Joseph, save for the rainy day.” I thought he was a fool. I didn’t worry about my future savings which I can bank upon in my old age. I thought I was young and can earn well. So I spent my money recklessly. Don’t ask me what I did! I will not tell you. But now I have to work as long as I can so that I am in not want.
Worrying is built into our blood because it is a means of self preservation. Suppose you see a bus coming towards you, you will move out of its way automatically because you worry getting hurt.
Many writers have made money writing books on how to stop worrying. One such book is HOW TO STOP WORRYING AND START LIVING.
Come to think of it, you are in the right track. Just expand your ideas and soon you will be an author of a book I am sure you can solve all your monetary problems and you don’t have to depend on your monthly pay cheque.
I enjoyed reading your wonderful line of thought and it was an educative post for me. Many, many thanks.
Have a lovely day:)
Joseph
hmmmmm, very inlightening and insightful.
Deletethanks
Beautiful words! And I Love this "new" blog spot! Nice!!
ReplyDeletethanks.......
Deleteworry….rappingonamelody there have been many times in my life when ive slept with it, lived with it to the point I began to feel married to it………..LOL………but its no good.
ReplyDeleteI have some unresolved issues in my life and unfortunately the legal system is slow i dont see these issues getting sorted anytime soon………………so figured i would have to get on with my life and I did……………….
I have stored worry in the case file………….and every few months when we have a hearing and i open the file worry manages to slip out to say hello…………………but i remember to put her back in ther…………………….thanks for a nice blog…………………….
It seems you have a great sense of humor on the situation, which sounds to me like you are coping remarkably well. Thanks for the lesson.
DeleteAbility to stay calm and live for the moment are gifts that few of us have- we probably miss out a lot of joy in the present because we are worried about the future! Thanks for the Diwali wishes and I must say this is a very thought provoking post! Have a nice week.
ReplyDeleteNamaste Meera, you make such good points, gift of the moment certainly is lost in light of worry for tomorrow missing lots of joy in the process.
DeleteWord.Worrying isn`t healthy. I like the part where u said "Try" is easier said than done,very true but must be..
ReplyDeleteYes it is easier said than done because even though we know worry is unproductive and unhealthy it doesn't stop us from doing it, however its a challenge worth exercising.
DeleteHi Rhapsody, I found you at Unyime's blog and decided to stop by. Lovely post. Worry has never brought any kind of solution to my life, so, I let it go.
ReplyDeleteI am following you here and on Twitter.
Blessings, thank you and welcome to Rhapsody Phoenix Eya. I hope you enjoyed your stay and continue to visit.
DeleteIt is in the letting go where the challenge lies.
Hi RP, great post as usual. Worry is a normal human reaction to a potentially threatening situation, but it is supposed to push one to positive action, and not immobilize us into a state of becoming emotional wrecks, or paranoid. When it becomes these, then we are in deep trouble. May we learn to accept the things we cannot truly change, and take action on the ones we can.
ReplyDeletehmmmmm, you made very good points, thanks for sharing.
DeleteAs always...well written and well said especially for this time of the year when many tend to get caught up in the hype of STUFF, which is looking good, feeling good, and spending good money on things we don't need. Glad I dropped by; have a happy day of thanksgiving today and everyday!
ReplyDeletethank you may the blessings of thanksgiving be with you always.
DeleteYes "we" tend to fall into the commmerialism of things and lose our sense of priority for whats popular. I thank the Divine that I am not one of the "we" having grown up with the grandmother who was very grounded i've learn to keep it real while enjoying the meaning of the holiday.
I really do believe in taking one day at a time. What goes up must come down, so our worrying about it does not change matters. It is doing something about it that counts. Ultimately the impact of any problem depends on our perspective and the strategies we adopt to deal with it.
ReplyDeletehmmmmm, so true, thank you for sharing your wisdom. May we all learn to be proactive and effective and not be immobilized by worry.
DeleteA tight almost impossible budget most important to what can wait a bit (we worry)
ReplyDeleteThe worrying really does not help,we worry.
2. It offers no resolvtions thing of it this way.
3. Mindfulness thought
The key in to be proactive and take care of yourself inside
out/.
I has bad time with me for five days. I thinking myself with me a felling ok in today.
I trust you are feeling better? thanks for coming, looking forward to seeing you again
DeleteThis time of year a lot of people will find themselves in this kind of emotion. Worry no good at all but at times easer said than done.
ReplyDeleteGrand Post
Best Wishes
Sheila
Sure you're right
Deleteyour entries are often so therapeutic
ReplyDeletenice change of pace from the usual -mill entries, Fabz
hope your canada day was a treat
i thought of you that day
well, i’ll talk to u again when i return from the West Coast on July 10
bye 4 now
thank you Richard...
DeleteFabulicious, indeed! :)wiser words never said ~I am perfectly imperfect, flawed, radiant and true. Peace
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely
Deleteespecially since, later in the cycle, it turns out his master is sleeping with his mistress…
ReplyDeletehmmmmm
DeleteYou make me laugh at myself. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteThat's a good thing.
Deletehi there. you have an awesoem blog, you write really well, Worry can do nothing, but can we stop worrying by any chance.
ReplyDeleteAnd the best part is the end when you say being proactive is what we should be.
Very Well done.
Take care. i hope it helps us all . and help us reduce our worries
Thank you.....
DeleteInteresting profile name, conjures many questions.perhaps that's the idea?
So true, very wise words. And it is easier said then done but not impossible. From one who speaks with experience lol. My philosophy is "it will be what it will be" no sense worrying about something you can’t do nothing about. Do what you can and that is all you can do. Love & Light :D
ReplyDeleteAny thing is possible. You know it is said that the spelling impossible means I AM POSSIBLE.....hence, no barriers/limitations except of course those we put upon our selves
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